JENdA: A Journal of Culture and African Women Studies

Lisa Jeannes and Tamara Shefer

The motherhood myth is the myth of the ‘Perfect Mother’. She must be completely devoted not just to her children, but to her role. She must be the one who understands her children, who is all-loving and, even more importantly, all-giving....We believe that she alone is the best caretaker for her children and they require her continual and exclusive presence. She must embody all the qualities traditionally associated with femininity such as nurturing, intimacy and softness. That’s how we want her to be...

Forna (1999, p.23)

Whilst the past century has seen many changes in terms of woman’s rights, with particular regard to education, employment opportunities and indeed female representation in the economic sector, it seems little has changed regarding motherhood. Popular culture is clinging to the notion of the 'perfect mother', insisting that this is one domain of womanhood that cannot be and never has been different.

Television media in South Africa often reinforces the western motherhood discourse, portraying career women as childless or succumbing to their maternal instincts if they do become mothers, choosing to sacrifice their careers for the ‘joys of motherhood’. The implicit message is that a women’s place is in the home. Accordingly, her role is to nurture her children and ensure that the home and her family are well cared for. It is further assumed that she finds this role fulfilling, meaningful and central to her identity.

Print media similarly makes a major contribution to perpetuating these discursive truths of motherhood: entire magazines published in South Africa target woman exclusively, and are dedicated to mothering. In a critique on the image of women portrayed by Living and Loving magazine, Kate Skinner (1994, p.63) suggests that ‘[m]agazines help define the position of women in society: they shape both a woman’s view of herself and society’s view of her.’

With this in mind, it is noteworthy that implicit in these multiple and ultimately similar representations of women is the fact that motherhood comes naturally to women, is instinctual and biologically ‘right’ (Woollett & Phoenix, 1991). The ‘insistence that a certain style of motherhood is “natural” leads women to question every aspect of what they do, think and feel and to measure their own experience against an impossible and rigid standard.’(Forna, 1999, p.23). This may result in excessive guilt and the denial of one’s needs that conflict with those of the child (even though these needs are often not clear). Oates (1986) reports that research in the United Kingdom, has ‘demonstrated that up to 50% of mothers with small children (under age five) have symptoms of intense emotional distress on a regular or continual basis’ (cited in Knowles & Cole, 1990, p.4). Furthermore, this biological determinism alienates men from the experience of nurturing by suggesting that they are not adequately equipped for the tasks of motherhood.

This study aims to explore the motherhood discourses employed by the participants, and how these contribute to their experiences of motherhood. A key intention of the study is to explore participants' perceptions regarding themselves as mothers and the sense they make of their experiences of motherhood. The purpose is to interpret these from a feminist perspective to ultimately empower women to create a notion of motherhood that suits them. The study is therefore fundamentally located in a feminist paradigm. In addition to the feminist influence on the analysis of the data and the purpose of the study, it is deemed a suitable paradigm in that the approach in itself fulfils a purpose of the study: the nature of a feminist methodology suggests that women be 'given a voice' (Gordon, 1990; Burns, 2000). It is assumed that women are used to being told how motherhood should be experienced and embodied, with input from family, friends, media, medical professionals and even strangers being the norm. It was hoped that it would be an empowering experience for participants to share their own experiences and opinions regarding motherhood.

Whilst a feminist approach will be maintained, it is felt that feminist studies pertaining to motherhood have generally tended to adopt a deterministic approach, making very little allowance for motherhood or even marriage within a liberated woman’s world (Farganis, 1996; Ribbens, 1994; Everingham, 1994; Chodorow, 1978; Hollway & Featherstone, 1997). Whereas in the past decades major contributions were made by feminists in refuting the instinctual/biological link between female gender and maternal instincts, it appears there was little room for those women who chose to be mothers to also be feminists (Ribbens, 1994; Everingham, 1994; Chodorow, 1978; Hollway & Featherstone, 1997). In their efforts to generate alternatives to ‘domestic responsibilities defining women’s lives’, the work of feminists like Friedan was instrumental in laying the foundations for women’s employment in the public sector (cited in Kaplan, 1992, p.4). Although this work liberated women by allowing them the opportunity to partake in public life, the frequent vilification of domestic life effectively precluded women from being feminist mothers. In addition to the power of socialisation therefore, it is arguable that dominant voices in western feminism inadvertently contributed to the perpetuation of women's oppression by impacting on their ability to choose alternative life paths. Accordingly, Gordon (1990, p.2) states:

Equality appear[s] elusive within the constraints posed by children. These constraints still [seem] to weigh heavier on women than men in our society....we should aim for a society where the experience of having children could be a pleasure to all parents, female and male. But before that [can] be possible, it [is] evident that our society [will] need to change, and the model of equality [will] need to be questioned; a society where women [are] ‘pseudo-men’ [is] not one worth fighting for.

More recent developments in feminist theory and practice, particularly those drawing on post-modern and post colonial theories, have shifted the terrain of feminist argumentation with respect to childbearing and rearing. There is an increasing predominance of social constructionist accounts of gender which highlight the shifting, fluid and historically contextual nature of gender identities, including those of mother and woman. Lorber and Farell (1991, p.10) suggest a social constructionist notion of gender that is a ‘powerful ideological device which produces, reproduces and legitimates the choices and limits that are predicated on sex category’. Social constructionism, within the postmodern paradigm, is critical of the acts or knowledge that have thus far been taken as 'truth', such as the notion that all women are naturally mothers. This approach further assumes that our perception of the world is shaped by the historical and cultural specificity of our context (Burr, 1995). Accordingly, social interaction within a particular society is reflects and in turn generates (or perpetuates) the knowledge or facts that are held by that society (Burr, 1995; Gergen, 1999; Gergen & Davis, 1997). The 'truth' as we perceive it therefore dictates social process.

Postmodern feminism importantly highlights the diversity of women and their experiences of being women, particularly across difference such as class, colour, sexual orientation, culture, age and others. Literature falling within this paradigm acknowledges the uniqueness of the individual experience whilst undertaking to account for this experience of ‘reality’ as created and perpetuated through the particular discursive and material context. Every woman is therefore believed to have her own unique understanding and experience of motherhood, however these are inseparable from various social and political which, through discourse, she maintains and perpetuates (Burman & Parker, 1993).

Given that postmodernism posits a fragmented and multiple version of women's experiences, there are challenges for feminism in its historical attempt to unify women. The theoretical paradigm of postmodern feminism is to some extent fraught with contradictions, particularly at the level of struggle and intervention. However, feminism here, in a postmodern formulation, is a construct of which ‘personal change of some kind is crucial, ... a fundamental feature, ... distinguish[ing] it from ‘equality of opportunity’ politics’. For, whereas in the latter the framework of ideologies is challenged, in postmodern feminism, ‘only the right of people regardless of sex to find their location within it is emphasised’ (Gordon, 1990, p.38). In acknowledging subjectivity therefore, the purpose here is to explore the individual experience of mothering while acknowledging the relationship between subjectivity and discourse.

In adopting a social constructionist approach, the intention is to explore the participants’ subjective experiences and so too assumptions regarding motherhood. The theoretical framework for this study therefore is feminist within a postmodern, social constructionist paradigm. In adopting this approach, the study hoped to ‘afford clarification of the interactional scaffolding of social structure and the social control processes which sustain’ the construct of motherhood (Lorber & Farrell, 1991, p.34). It is only within a context which acknowledges multiplicity and difference, across both individual and social contexts of meaning, that women may begin to define alternative and more progressive 'mother identities' and 'mothering practices'. The study intended to explore the multiplicity of discourses that frame participants' experiences of mothering, including dominant, popular ones as well as more critical and possibly marginalised discourses.

A Discursive Analysis

Participants

A group of five middle class, South African women in the city of Cape Town constituted the sample. In order to increase the value of the research, in spite of the small sample size, the participants were selected from similar socio-economic backgrounds (Kaplan, 1992). A middle class population was chosen for two reasons. Firstly, such a background corresponds with the primary researcher's own background and in this way power relations between participants and the researcher could be minimized. Secondly, it was assumed that women who are more affluent may have less material constraints and therefore more freedom to exercise choice and so shape their experience of motherhood. For example, these women may be able to make choices regarding whether to work or stay at home, childcare facilities and employment opportunities relatively free from the dictates of material constraints.

Participants were recruited using a sample of convenience and the snowballing sampling technique (Breakwell, Hammond & Fife-Shaw, 1995). All the participants had full-time professional careers prior to having children. All were in committed relationships at the time of falling pregnant, and at the time of the interview. None of the participants had a child older than three years. All participants resumed work after the birth of their children, after various periods of maternity leave. Given the salience of 'race' in South African history, it is important to clarify that the sample was predominantly white, with one participant formally classified ‘coloured’.

Interviews

A single in-depth, individual interview was conducted with each participant, with a duration of approximately one-and-a-half hours. The interviews were unstructured and as far as possible guided by the participant. Several broad areas of inquiry were identified and these were used to generate a rough list of questions. Whilst we were interested in what the participant’s experiences of motherhood were, we were also interested in how they expressed themselves in conveying these experiences, and consequently the meaning they attached to their experiences. We were therefore cautious in our approach to the interviews. The first author conducted all the interviews herself and attempted to create a conversational atmosphere in the hopes that the participants would feel free to convey what was important to them. Furthermore, as the interviewer she was open to sharing her own motherhood experiences, as part of the ‘give and take’ of a conversation. In so doing however, she was acutely aware of the discursive influence she might have on the interviews, by virtue of the power imbalance inherent in the research situation. She therefore decided to keep her contributions to the conversation to an absolute minimum. She felt uncomfortable withholding her experiences entirely however, so offered the participant the opportunity to enquire about her motherhood experience at the end of the interview. All interviews were audio-taped with permission of participants and transcribed verbatim.

Analysis

Elements of Parker’s (1992) and Potter and Wetherell’s (1987) approaches to discourse analytic data analysis were employed as outlined in Breakwell et al. (1995). The initial process involved coding of the transcripts, in order to identify broad discourses. Thereafter, an attempt was made to discern the functions of the relevant discourses. The intention was to identify the structures in each participant’s language created with regard to her subjectivity in describing herself as a mother. Once these structures were identified an attempt was made to unpack the functions such linguistic strategies served, such as to rationalise, legitimise or contest existing 'truths' about being a mother. Since the various structures may involve functions which are incompatible, and indeed conflictual, an attempt was made to elucidate these conflicting discourses and to account for their functions in terms of the 'truths' of the various societal groups to which the participant belongs. An attempt was further made to identify a variety of ideologies which underpin the participants’ social contexts, and to examine the conflicting representations these had in their discourse. In determining the functions therefore, the broader context was considered, specifically the political and social issues, which were made relevant by the text (Burman & Parker, 1993).

The Discursive Context

In analysing the transcripts, we became aware that the majority of the discourses employed reflected gender inequality as inherent to the construct of motherhood. It became apparent that whereas Elvin-Nowak & Thomsson (2001) identified a discourse of equality within the context of their study, this study is located in a context of inequality. This is not surprising given the historical and current context of South African society, which has been and remains characterised by a pervasive discourse of inequality.

Until the first democratic elections in 1994, South Africa’s prominent official discourse was one of inequality. The past eight years have seen major amendments to the constitution in the direction of equality for all with the prioritising of gender equality. However, economic and other forms of inequality nevertheless persist, with a severe lack of employment providing little opportunity for the disadvantaged majority to alter their circumstances, thereby preventing a discourse of equality to find a foothold in South African society.

Within the discourse of inequality, gender becomes a ‘positioning or diverging factor’ (Elvin-Nowak & Thomsson, 2001, p.409). Accordingly, gender is socially constructed through difference, ‘which means that men and women as groups [do not] have the same qualifications for taking care of children and home-related responsibilities as well as for occupying higher positions in society.’ (Elvin-Nowak & Thomsson, 2001, p.409). The discourses of inequality, specifically gender inequality, therefore provide the context within which each participant experiences motherhood and constructs her individual meaning thereof. Consequently, the majority of the discourses identified can be seen to be constructed within a discourse of gender inequality.

The Discourses of Motherhood

Four broad areas of discourse pertaining to motherhood predominated in the narratives analysed. These included discourses relating to: mothers as the primary caregiver; working mother discourses; mothers as co-parents; and motherhood as empowerment. Within each of these broad themes, a number of discourses were identified.

Motherhood is Being a Primary Caregiver

One of the key findings of the study is that all of the participants in this study, notwithstanding their ideological backgrounds, ultimately constructed the mother as the primary caregiver of the child. Reflecting the dominant and popular discourse on women as the essential and natural caregiver within the heterosexual dyad, this set of discourses is founded on the assumption that the mother's constant presence and nurturing are essential to the child’s ongoing psychological well-being (Gabbard, 1990). It seems that within the chosen population, this is the dominant discourse about children. Within this general discursive theme, three discursive variations were employed by the participants as follows.

Inherent Motherhood

A primary discourse within the theme of mothers as the primary caregiver is that which reflects one of the most popular 'truths' about women and motherhood – that mothering is inherent in being a woman. The discourse of inherent motherhood clearly delineates different, gendered roles, and is generally, but not always, based on the assumptions of biological predisposition and notions of instinct. Accordingly, the mother is viewed as either biologically or psychologically/socially the natural, normal, and best caregiver to see to the child’s physical and emotional needs. The corollary to this is that women instinctively know what is right for their children and have an inherent nurturing ability. This discourse further constructs women as destined to be mothers and as unable to find fulfilment or achieve as great a degree of success in any other endeavour. All the participants employed inherent motherhood in constructing their subjective mothering experiences. Most seemed to agree that inherent motherhood was most powerful during the first year of a child’s life. The following two quotes reflect this biological determinist version of motherhood as inherent:

I think it is in our genes, partly, strongly actually mothering is in our genes and so is fathering in a father's genes, em, and there are different roles and they both important.[1]

(Julia)

The time that we spend with Andrew is not that much different you know, between the two of us but I'm obviously the one who does a lot of the practical stuff with Andrew. I do the dressing and the feeding and the bathing...kids generally go for the mom, because of the mom's involvement on that level, I don't know, maybe there's an emotional thing as well where kids respond differently to the mom than the dad, I don't know, it could be I mean dad's generally tend to be more, there's more I don't know I don't know, maybe it's instinct maybe kids just know ‘here's my mom’...

(Kim)

Julia and Kim both employ inherent motherhood to account for gendered role differences that they have observed and sanction. The participants clearly illustrate how gender here, and therefore motherhood, is socially constructed through difference. This is further evidenced in the following quote:

I would wake up, I would know it’s breastfeeding time and I’d jump out of bed with this eina [sore] scar and stuff and charge down the passage hunched over like a granny, and em knock straight into Jason being brought to me. I did it about three times (laughter). So I sensed him, that it was time [even] when he wasn’t there...

I had a lot of milk, for heavens sake I hadn’t carried these boobs around for 33 years without them being useful, eventually and they’d come into their own.

(Mary)

Mary reflects on breastfeeding in the early days of motherhood, relating her apparent innate ability to sense when her child needed to be fed. She could have attributed this to a physical engorgement of her breasts. However, Mary relates how she ‘sensed him’, suggesting that she possesses certain inherent abilities to nurture her child and see to his needs. Mary continues to construct motherhood as inherent in relating her experience of breastfeeding. She explains that she had persevered with breastfeeding even though ‘it was excruciating’ for ‘about three months’ because her breasts were eventually ‘being useful’. Mary illustrates here that an assumption underlying the inherent construction of motherhood is that women and women’s bodies are primarily and ultimately valued for their mothering functions and capabilities.

Amy illustrates the pressure that the discourse of inherent motherhood exerts on mothers to take on the role and responsibilities of primary caregiver when she relates the first day at home with her child:

...the next thing this child wees [urinates], on his own head (laughter) this fountain, and it all landed on his head. I said to Brett 'oh my God now we’re gonna have to bath him'. Brett says 'no you’re not', he gets a towel dries Martin’s head...it was brilliant I never loved him as much as at that moment, he just sort of gave me permission [not to bath him].

(Amy)

What is particularly significant is that Amy felt that the bathing of the baby was her responsibility and that her partner ‘just sort of gave [her] permission [not to bath the baby]’ (my emphasis). Julia reflects how she tends to take greater responsibility than her husband does for disciplining their children, perhaps ‘because [she] knows the children better’. She therefore suggests that it is legitimately her responsibility to discipline the children.

In all these excerpts the participants construct parenting as inherently the mother’s responsibility. They therefore take on the role of primary caregiver by virtue of the language they use when referring to the responsibilities of parenthood. In addition to the above, three related discursive positions were identified as arising out of the discourse of inherent motherhood. The impact of the discourse of inherent motherhood on many of the participants is a denial of any personal agency. This is reflected in their employing one or both of the following discursive positions, concerning choice and lack of control respectively. Finally a discourse concerning fatherhood and the meaning of fathering was identified. These shall each be discussed in turn.

i) Caregiving as a Choice for Men

Whereas mothers are obliged to engage in mothering by virtue of the fact that they bear children, fathering and consequently fatherhood is a far more elusive construct. In order to mother you have to bear, give birth, feed (preferably breastfeed), and continuously nurture. This entails both a physical and emotional commitment, compromising your own needs if that is what is called for. If you don’t do any of the foregoing sufficiently well, you are not a 'good enough mother' and you have failed your child in one or other way. In order to a father you have to supply a sperm. There appears to be no such thing as the 'good enough father' in popular culture.

The participants illustrated this gendered role division by constructing nurturing fathering as a choice for their male partners. Accordingly, men whose parenting involvement and commitment resembles that of mothers are viewed as parenting in this way out of choice. Furthermore, men who do choose to nurture in this way are deemed full of virtue and eternally respected and admired. The following quote illustrates this construction of fatherhood:

Adrian gets consistent adulatory sort of boot licking (laughter) . . . Affirmation you know he for being so wonderful ... and I sort of think no one comes prostrating themselves before me, worshipping at the altar that is my motherhood (laughter), because that's what you expect because because he is. And he is good father em but you know what I mean because it's not the classical role that he plays, boy I mean he is so admired for . . . His father, his stepmother his brother, my mother my father you know (laughs) Whereas, I mean it's not that I need the affirmation em but I suppose when the going gets rough you do. When I came home from the from the 3 party dilemma crisis of mine and I was looking, what I wanted someone to say to me was you're a good mother, that's all I needed and because he'd missed 3 parties solely I was a bad mother .Um, em, and ja I think just a little bit of jealousy that I a little bit of jealous little bit jealous of Adrian's consistent praise and affirmation he gets for his parenting em. Oh it’s a gender thing that, you know, gender thing. I'm a girl, girls are supposed to mother, so if they do it well it's just gewoonlik [normal], boys aren't supposed to so when they do it's like Oscars you know (laughter).

(Angela)

Ironically, Angela earlier, described her husband as ‘fantastic’ in terms of his parental involvement, herself constructing fatherhood in terms of choice.

ii) Discourse of Dyscontrol

In employing this discourse, a woman essentially denies her sense of agency, thereby allowing other/s to make decisions for her. Julia illustrates this discourse in relating the process of becoming pregnant:

I didn't really decide my well I suppose at some, subconsciously of course one must take, but my husband was very keen on having children, very very keen and because he was so keen I basically stopped, I was also tired of using contraception...

(Julia)

Julia here reflects how she took her husbands decision as her own. However, she indicates that, when she discovered she was pregnant she ‘couldn’t believe it’ and that she ‘was really quite upset’. Julia’s decision to have a second child was similarly made on someone else’s behalf. She reports that ‘[they] were convinced that children should have siblings’, thereby making the decision to have another baby for her first child and not for herself.

Another consequence of the construction of motherhood in terms of dyscontrol, is that women accept their inability to control their lives, trying to make the best of things. This is illustrated in the following quote:

I think the questions about choice, having children and making marriage come up more later, rather than at the time and it’s been propelled through having children

(Julia)

Julia relates the feeling that despite her initial misgivings regarding the pregnancy and pending motherhood, she then ‘really just accepted it, accepted [her] situation and enjoyed being pregnant and loved it'. Julia recognises having adopted the discourse of dyscontrol in reflecting on her feelings about marriage and children as indicated in the above quote.

iii) Discourse of Choice

Contrary to the discourse of dyscontrol was the construction of motherhood in terms of choice which was fairly well represented among participants, for example:

I wanted everything, ...I wanted to do my masters, fall pregnant and start my own practice.

(Mary)

I just had this plan you know, we got married in 95 and I wanted to have children in 2000, 2001 and that was just the plan I had for myself, working and you know and I just got this new job and I was absolutely delighted about it I never thought it would happen to me, em, and I, I was that was a major factor, ...I just felt this was not good for my future in the organisation em, so that was also a major factor.

(Angela)

...thinking actually how am I going to have two jobs. How am I going to be a good mother a good therapist and a good partner. I just couldn’t see myself doing it.

(Mary)

The average man enters parenthood without changing his employment status at all, Mary, here conveys the meaning thereof to the average women. Accordingly, parenthood entails choices for women and it is silly, indeed presumptuous for them to want ‘everything’. Mary’s concern with how she was going to combine her multiple roles reflects the degree of responsibility and consequent pressure she felt in making these choices.

Whereas all the women employing the discourse of choice express their decision to choose motherhood, the choice here is clearly constrained by the impact of inherent motherhood.

Mothering is Selflessness

A second major discourse within the broader theme of mothers as the primary caregiver is underpinned by the notion that the baby is primary and that the woman should be centred about him/her. The unquestionable supremacy of baby and baby’s needs is central to this discourse, constantly reminding women of the conflict between their needs and those of their offspring, and of their 'badness' in even having their own needs at all. Inherent therein is the assumption that a mother possesses saintly qualities, in this sense the ability to prioritise other’s needs at all costs. The following two quotes illustrate this discourse:

...a fight for your space with other humans, ...a competition for when you have time to yourself and when you give time to others...To put another individual’s needs before your own, and to be affected by what they feel and how they are you know, deeply so, on all sorts of different levels.

(Amy)

...it was a real shock for me to realise that I was ambivalent about it but up till then I’ve always, I want to have my kids you know...I realised that it would work out I just have to stop being such a workaholic and just make time for it.

(Mary)

In defining what it is to be a mother, Amy illustrates the conflicts of needs experienced when employing the discourse of selflessness. She conveys the emotional component of this selfless relationship in that motherhood, in addition to prioritising another’s needs above your own, also entails being ‘affected by what they feel and how they are’.

Mary similarly constructs motherhood as selflessness in reflecting on her ambivalence about having a child. She expresses surprise at her ambivalence and decides to suppress her career aspirations in the interests of having children, this in spite of the fact that she attests to finding intellectual stimulation ‘exciting and [that she]...liked [her] job’.

Julia describes the practical conflict of needs she experienced in her role as mother, ‘learning how to get enough food and enough to drink for [herself] as well as looking after the baby’. She further employs this discourse in accounting for her decision to have a second child, indicating that this was as a result of her belief that ‘children should have siblings’, in spite of the fact that she had and continues to have ‘ambivalence over [her] situation’ as mother. Julia also employs this discourse in describing feeling ‘depressed .. just coming home ... because everything is just a mess, and its been a mess ever since’, yet feeling she does not have the right to her need for order and neatness, that its ‘just [her] and [her] neurosis’, questioning ‘why do you actually need everything to be perfect, what need are you trying to fulfil?’

Mary further employs the discourse of selflessness in relating her perseverance with breastfeeding even though ‘it was excruciating’ for ‘about three months’, making her ‘toes curl’ and causing her to ‘swear under [her] breath’. She reports having stopped eventually because she ‘was getting boils...[and] realised it was depleting [her] too much’.

i) Maternal Responsibility

This discourse concerns the need for a mother to take her mothering responsibilities seriously and act maturely in this regard. Whilst these expectations are closely linked to the discourse of the good enough mother discussed below, this discourse is seen to be separate in that it concerns the woman behind the mother, rather than the woman in the mothering role. This is illustrated in the following quote:

The decision to become a mother, bringing up human beings...is phenomenally powerful as a way of contributing and influencing society, because you sculpt this little person in a way.

(Kim)

Kim later reflects on the difficult time she had adjusting to motherhood, denying herself the right to have any negative emotions and reports that ‘she had to do a lot of work on dealing with [her] own emotions, ... that [she] had to do a lot of work on [herself]’. Julia reflects on her pregnancy, saying that she felt she was 'now no longer a girl’ and of now ‘really having to take responsibility for [her], looking after [her] marriage and [her] children'. She later on refers to her resentment of this responsibility and her resultant anger as something ‘which is actually not okay’, suggesting that she is failing as a mother and a mature woman if she is unable to take all this on without feeling some degree of anger and resentment. Amy similarly employs this discourse in owning that ‘the anguish that [she] felt about being a mother came from [her]’.

The Good Enough Mother

The good enough mother discourse is perhaps the most prevalent of all within the set of discourses of women as the primary caregiver. This discourse is based on the premise that women generally are not 'good enough' mothers and need to constantly make efforts to improve on their mothering abilities. The following quote illustrates this premise:

I was taking my vitamins before I became pregnant and started to do exercises and read,...because it was a decision I took [to fall pregnant] and I would be responsible about it.

(Kim)

Clearly, here the prerequisite for a 'good enough mother' starts prior to childbirth, or as Kim suggests, ‘your mothering starts before becoming pregnant, the decision to become a mother is where your mothering starts’. This aspect of the 'good enough mother' discourse has been demonstrated in the United States of America in recent years, where women are subject to legal scrutiny if they are not deemed by society to be fit mothers to their unborn children. The mother’s right to smoke, consume alcohol, etcetera are therefore legally challenged ostensibly in the interests of the needs of her unborn children.

The following quote similarly illustrates the construction of a mother in terms of meeting a certain standard:

I had to do a lot of work on dealing with my own emotions...because it’s easy to slip over the edge and become despairing and depressed and...if you are going to be miserable...obviously your baby is going to respond to that because they are that sensitive, they’ll pick it up.

(Kim)

Kim, in reflecting on the first months of her child’s life, reports that it was a difficult time because the baby was difficult. She however denies herself the right to have negative feelings about motherhood. Therefore, even though she was experiencing great difficulty in adapting to motherhood, she would not allow herself to acknowledge her despair out of fear that this would negatively affect her child.

Amy similarly questions the acceptability of the feelings she experiences regarding motherhood. In discussing the anxiety she ‘experienced from the moment [she] fell pregnant...of [her] child dying’, she reflects that whereas her fears can be protective, one runs the risk of ‘mak[ing] your child frightened of life’ if you are overprotective. In attempting to be a 'good enough mother', therefore, the way Amy has ‘dealt with the neurosis is not to deny it, but not to be overprotective either.’

Angela also conveys the pressure mothers feel to ‘play the beaming mother holding the baby behind the glass’ in describing the relief she felt that she was so ill following the birth that consequently ‘there were not much, not many expectations on [her] to be a good mother’.

The following quote further illustrates the discourse of 'good enough mothering':

...and he woke up exactly that time and shouted mommy are you working, you know, and I thought okay is that a mom you know? shew, we’re so connected and you can tune into me, my goodness am I being, a nice place to plug into and I think a mom is an available person, always available it’s very hard, not being the ideal mom.

(Mary)

Mary constructs motherhood in terms of being good enough when relating an incident where her son woke up from in the middle of the night, when she herself was lying awake and the guilt this elicited regarding her decision to work. She reflects on the demands placed on her by her work, how this conflicts with the demands of motherhood, how this affects who she is as a mother and how this relates to her idea of what constitutes a good mother. In so doing, she clearly doubts that she is a good enough mom in this instance.

Amy illustrates the importance of being validated within the good enough mother discourse, relating that when ‘people tell you you’re a brilliant mother, there’s no greater compliment that you can receive’. Amy further illustrates the extent to which mothers feel affirmed when they believe that they have indeed been good enough, in her reflection that the ‘the first time [they] changed his nappy without having him crying it was like [she] had gotten three degrees cum laude, it was such a feeling of pride’. She normalises the guilt associated with this discourse by relating the story of how her mother ‘even at the age of seventy, with all her children adults, ...still wakes up at three o’clock in the morning and feels guilty about things that she did as a mother.’

Angela, who is apparently content with the model of mothering she adopts, expresses her doubts by occasionally adopting the discourse of the good enough mother. After flippantly describing herself as having an uncharacteristic mothering style she relates feeling an accumulative guilt, fearing that she [had not been doing the right thing, [she] had not been mummying...[feeling] like maybe sometimes [she] was too cavalier’.

In exploring how she differs from other mothers, Amy employs the good enough mother discourse and begins to question her mothering style and that maybe her child would ‘love having [the] sort of mother who spends every second of her time actively with him, attending to him, just being present for him.’ She explores her feeling of inadequacy further in relating an incident when she was at a work function with her child:

I saw a video of an evening that we had at [the organisation] when he was a baby and I know that I used to walk into those functions and used to just hand him over to the first person who said 'oh please can I hold him', and then I’d bugger off and they would then be passing him onto the next person who’d say 'oh please can I hold him' anyway so the video very interestingly shows Martin in somebody’s arms with people around chatting whatever, and I don’t know if this is so but how I read his expression there, is that was wide eyed kind of, 'where is mommy, I think I’m safe for now I think it’s cool where I am but shew I really wish she would like come and get me', do you know what I mean?

(Amy)

This excerpt clearly conveys Amy’s sense of guilt at not being the type of mother she believed she ought to be.

Angela similarly questions her apparently alternative mothering style. In discussing a crisis of confidence she had regarding her style of mothering, she relates a dream that helped her resolve this crisis and made her ‘[realise] that being loose doesn’t mean you don’t care’. She concludes that adopting a ‘go with the flow mothering technique’ is not necessarily inferior. However, the dream that brought about this realisation depicts her refusing to let her husband take her child with him on a dangerous expedition, conveying clearly that she is now an 'okay' mother since she is also capable of being protective in the most stereotypic sense.

To sum up, within this discursive theme of the mother as primary caregiver, it is evident that there is strong undertone of developmental psychological theories in the discourse of 'good enough mothering', which ultimately serves to rationalise and legitimise the broader discourse on women as the primary caregiver for children. Furthermore, the inherent inferiority of women within the discourse of inequality is illustrated by the prevalence of the good enough mother discourse. Whereas women are inherently inadequate within the good enough mother discourse, they are genetically predisposed to mothering within the discourse of inherent motherhood. As a result of these conflicting discourses women feel compelled to embrace the mothering role, yet feel eternally inferior within it. The resultant guilt spurs women on to improve on their mothering and to dedicate themselves more wholly to the task of mothering. The attempt to become a better mother is illustrated in the discourse of selflessness, wherein women sacrifice themselves and their needs in the perceived interests of their child/ren.

A significant factor in the good enough mother discourse, is that the guilt often arises out of a conflict of needs, most often between the mothers need to work and the child’s apparent need for her omnipresence. The result is often that women withdraw from the public world of work, or engage therein at great emotional cost. Herewith follows an analysis of working mother discourses employed by the participants

Working Mother Discourses

Inherent in the word ‘working’ here is the assumption that the work is of a public nature, is paid and is unrelated to the tasks of motherhood. This is problematic in that it serves to perpetuate the devaluation of nurturing children. In challenging this assumption, many feminist authors suggest that mothering be equated with work (Bailey, 2000). For the purposes of this study the term ‘work’ is understood not to include the activities of mothering, since this is how it has been defined by the participants.

Three primary discourses pertaining to work were identified in the participant’s narratives. What is striking is that the discourses varied a great deal amongst the participants, and indeed changed at times within a narrative, as the participant proceeded on the journey of motherhood. There appears to be a constant and complex ambivalence regarding work and motherhood and the often conflicting demands and needs of each role between and within these discursive positions.

Motherhood is Being at Home

What is essentially implied within this discourse is that motherhood and intellectual stimulation are incompatible, that it is wrong and selfish of women to fulfil or even recognise their intellectual needs and that employment can only be justified with economic necessity or loyalty to the employer, and never personal need. Inherent in this discourse therefore is guilt associated with working.

Mary reports that she ‘love[s] [her] job, ...and that [she] really [doesn’t] have a problem [going] to work’, however she similarly employs the contradictory discourse of guilt regarding work, in relating a recent experience where her child ‘woke up...and shouted 'mommy are you working?' .. and [she] thought ‘okay, is that a mom?’, clearly experiencing discomfort with her decision to work. Julia, in responding to my question regarding her decision to return to work, initially refers to financial obligation and a feeling of commitment to the workplace. In exploring what her work entails however, Julia connects with the positive aspects of her job and the fact that she ‘really enjoy[s] it’ and then acknowledges that ‘[she] really felt [she] wanted to go back to work as well, because of [the] isolation [she] had experienced [at home]’.

Mary relates how discovering her intellectual ability ‘was exciting and [that she] discovered that [she] like[d] her job’, and that ‘there was a period when [she] was building [her] career, and became quite ambivalent about [wanting a child]’. She interprets her love for her career as inappropriate however, deciding that ‘[she] wasn’t balanced, [that she] was very much career orientated’ and resolved her ambivalence by realising that ‘[she would] just have to stop being such a workaholic and just make time for [motherhood]’. Mary later conveys the conflict she has between her own needs to pursue her career and the discourse of inherent motherhood that she employs and so applies to herself. In relating her partner’s insistence that she continue working after having the baby since she was ‘a career person [and could] not give it up’, Mary reports:

I couldn’t get my head around being a working mom, whereas it is who I am. I would have lost a lot of myself had I been a full time mom, I know that, but it took me a long time to get to that point.

Whilst the above conveys the participant’s guilt at working, it also illustrates their positive feelings about work, revealing their ambivalence regarding work and ‘at-home’ motherhood. The ambivalence suggests that, within this discourse, the participants were able to construct motherhood relatively free of the discursive influences of the dominant discourses of inequality and of developmental psychological theories of childhood. Accordingly:

[the] femininity produced within the structure for this concept is more independent from the motherhood position. Still, it is always at risk of being perceived negatively in those cases in which the working woman appears to the detriment of the mother.

(Elvin-Nowak & Thomsson, 2001, p.424)

Career Women Aren’t Mothers

Employment is constructed within a discursive position that, to a certain extent, excludes the woman as a mother...Such a discursive position makes sense beside the pronounced discourse based on ideas about the mother’s accessibility.

(Elvin-Nowak & Thomsson 2001, p.418)

A similar construction of motherhood and employment was encountered in the present study. This discourse therefore encapsulates the conflict between motherhood and employment in the public sector, since inherent therein is the assumption that motherhood is a liability in the working world. It also carries the assumption that a mother is somehow inferior to other professionals, whether it is because of the limitations she has on her time or because of the belief that she does not function optimally since becoming a mother.

Angela conveys this conflict in describing herself as feeling ‘deeply ashamed’ when telling her employers that she was pregnant within two months of being employed. In order to be recognised professionally, many women then feel that they have to prevent motherhood from 'contaminating' the workplace, and so compromising their careers. Angela further demonstrates this by stating that she ‘felt that [the pregnancy] was not good for [her] future in the Organisation’.

The following two quotes illustrate this discourse:

[My] earning capacity diminishes because I'm just not prepared to work and do my work as well as I can in the hours and I was not prepared to work overtime so [the] promotion thing’s out the window

(Julia)

And then I came back to work half days you know, half time. But Carol was in charge then, she was incredibly demanding, you know it never felt like you could ever go home, so you know as long as Martin was happy at work, I’d stay, which was fine but not for me.

(Amy)

Julia, in conveying her sense of women as being inferior members of society, reflects on the impact motherhood has had for her in terms of her career. She further validates this treatment of working mothers by indicating that she ‘[doesn’t] expect to be promoted’ because she is a mother. Amy employs this discourse in relating how despite the fact that she was ‘back to work half days’, she ‘never felt like [she] could go home’.

Mothers Are Superwomen

This discourse ties up with those of guilt relating to work, and of professionalism and responsibility. The general themes of this discourse are guilt, inadequacy, the need to be and do more than one is and does, and the notion that women always have coped and survived and therefore so should you.

In the following quote, Angela accounts for her decision not to take maternity leave:

...you had to have worked for the organisation for a year, so I didn't qualify for maternity leave, em, you know but they said I could take unpaid leave, could make a plan. Ja, they were quite, they were very open to that, but the whole idea of taking unpaid leave just to didn't seem to be an option you know although Adrian was earning.

(Angela)

Even in the absence of financial constraints, Angela could not justify time off from work for motherhood. It seems as if motherhood was not sufficient to excuse her from her professional responsibilities.

Angela further employs the superwoman discourse in describing her childbirth experience:

I didn't want to be the neurotic woman, I sort of everything had gone [smoothly], I hadn't fussed about anything I just would have two scans on that sort of very basic scan machines, I didn't want to make it into a whole performance so ... I just I felt ashamed having to go, “I feel a bit I've got this pain in my chest Doctor”, I just sort of didn't want to fit into this neurotic hypochondriac woman stereotype.

(Angela)

Angela suffered a very rare and often fatal medical condition with the birth of her child. She nevertheless describes feeling embarrassed at 'making a fuss'.

Amy illustrates the pressure felt when employing the superwoman discourse:

‘you never feel that you’re doing any one job well...you’re divided and you can never give absolutely everything to the one task, so you constantly feel that you’re not doing anything properly,...you’re constantly feeling a little bit guilty and a little bit inadequate.’

In summary, from the above it is clear that mothering and working (in the public arena) are largely constructed as incompatible. The working mother discourses insidiously decree that mothers should be permanently at home, and that they are less valuable than other ‘normal’ employees. In a society where activities in the private arena are not recognised as work, the relegation of the mother to the home consequently results in the devaluation of her contribution to society and the subsequent devaluation of the mother herself. Julia describes her felt devaluation very succinctly:

...when I walk into a shop, its like this person’s going to a) need help and b) not be able to spend so much , because they’ve got children, so you’re just not a priority, you’re not a desirable customer, you’re actually a pain...being a mother gives you a sense of what it is to be older, suddenly you can’t move so quickly, you cant get done what you normally get done, you can't make phone calls, you can’t, all of these things you can’t do.

(Julia)

Mothers as Co-Parents

Whereas mothering would seem to concern the relationship of the women with her child/ren, it was felt that a discursive analysis of the mother’s perceptions of her role and position in relationship to the father of her child/ren would allow for an exploration the role of fathers in the parenting dyad. As illustrated in the two discourses encountered, it is apparent that the social construction of gender in terms of difference has cast the woman firmly into the role of caregiver whilst excluding the man from these activities. The discursive positions within the discourse of co-parenting are therefore reflections of the discourse of inequality. Since the woman is identified as the nurturer, she then becomes the nurturer of the marital relationship as well.

The Mother as Nurturer of Parent Dyad

The assumption underlying this discourse is that the woman is responsible for the emotional health of the relationship, and that if she does not tend to this aspect, she is blameworthy for the demise of the relationship. Inherent in this discourse is women’s guilt associated with perceived neglect of the partner and consequently the fear that they have compromised the relationship. The following quote illustrates this discourse:

...as a couple em, we need to get back to I mean I feel we need to get back to being a couple a little bit more because we let that go a little bit. I've let that go,... he's very good, he's very patient, very tolerant never, not never but very seldom will he judge me in terms of neglecting him... he's just sometimes kind of shown that he's, he notices that I am sacrificing him.

... so ja, I'm aware that we need to get back, I need to get back into the mode where I'm prioritising my relationship with my husband more often, I do it, every time I catch myself I think, oh I better reconnect with my husband sometime or other otherwise I am going to be a single parent very soon (laughter)

(Kim)

Kim constructs her marriage relationship in terms of herself as the nurturer. She employs this discourse in describing the state of her relationship with her partner since they have become parents. Reflecting on the relationship with her partner, she indicates that there is some distance between them. She blames herself for the current state of her marriage and expresses her perceived responsibility for nurturing her partner and the relationship. She further expresses her resultant guilt and her fear that, by her perceived neglect of her husband, she is compromising her marital relationship.

Shared Parenting

This is a discourse that focuses on the collectivity of parenting as an alternative to the broad dominant discourse of mothers as primary caregivers, illustrated above. It was notable, that in spite of a growing discourse on shared parenting in popular culture, only one participant employed this discourse in discussing her experiences of motherhood. Mary initially employed this discourse, starting her narrative by reflecting on the time prior to the pregnancy with her first child as the time ‘before we fell pregnant’. Although she was the pregnant partner, Mary constructs the pregnancy and consequently the parenting to follow as a collective experience. However, later in the interview she ironically reveals that their parenting was not in fact shared at all:

I was a bit shocked, I thought that he’d be a bit more involved,...he wouldn’t bath [the baby] or he was too scared to be left alone with [the baby].

(Mary)

Motherhood is Empowerment

Two discourses encountered appear to represent the spaces within which women can express themselves, relatively free from the prescriptions of the discourse of inequality, particularly the dominant discourse of women as the primary caregiver. These are understood to represent a discourse of motherhood as empowering. The discourses presented here occurred far less frequently than those couched in the discourse of inequality, above. Disappointingly, when they were identified in a discourse, they were always accompanied by conflicting discourses governed by the discourse of mothers as the primary caregiver. Despite the relative lack of discourses of motherhood as empowering, the occasional presence thereof is encouraging. The phenomenon of empowerment discourses within a discursive context of inequality confirms the existence of ‘spaces, and ... possibilities and limitations for radical action within patriarchal, racist, capitalist societies’ (Gordon, 1990, p.1).

Mothers Have Authority and Power

Inherent in this discourse is an expressed feeling of confidence and a sense of agency that all the participants demonstrated at some point. Julia describes an interaction with some ‘young coloured men’ who were giving her ‘a hard time’, making sexual remarks to her in public. She reports feeling a ‘sort of sense [that she is] not a girl, [she’s] not available’ and that whereas previously she would ‘never say anything about it, or do anything about it’, being pregnant with her second child she was able to ‘[give] this guy a complete mouthful’. In exercising her authority as an experienced mother, Julia also conveyed a sense of being more mature, challenging the men with 'who do you think you’re talking to, back off little boy, what do you actually know, ... you don’t have a clue, back off’. While this quote highlights her sense of threat that is both gendered and racialised, her identity as a 'mother' appears to give her courage. Kim, reflecting on her own pregnancy, suggests that this marks the beginning of ‘a complete new status in your womanhood ... you’ve joined the circle of the mothers to be and soon you’ll be a mother soon now you have or you possess a knowledge, or you’re in the process of possessing a knowledge that you know you can only possess through this [motherhood] identity’.

While this discourse is clearly an empowering one for participants, and serves as a way of challenging some of the more negative discourses on mothering, it also inadvertently falls into another dominant and popular discourse – that is, that women are only mature and successful women when they have become mothers. Thus, participants appear only able to 'find power' in mothering through a discourse which also disempowers women who aren't mothers.

Mothers Are Women Discourse

According to this discourse, motherhood is conveyed as one of many facets of a woman’s life. It is neither totally prioritised nor compromised, simply made to fit in with the other aspects of her life. This is the discourse we expected to find amongst all the participants, since we believed that the participant’s life choices prior to motherhood suggest people who ‘know what they want in life’ and who ‘go out and get it’. This was found to be in particular in terms of relationships and their working worlds. Contrary to my expectations, this discourse was employed by only one participant, Angela, in relating her reaction to discovering her unplanned pregnancy:

I sort of said look, I'm gonna, I'm going to make it fit, I'm sort of going to approach in a way that make this whole experience fit into my life as it is at the moment and try not to make too many changes.

A discourse analysis of five interviews with middle class South African women revealed four predominant discursive themes. These themes give rise to a number of conclusions regarding the construct of motherhood within the population studied.

The first three themes appear to emerge from, reflect and reproduce a discursive position of inequality. Whereas the social construction of gender through difference means that men and women are deemed different it also means that one gender is deemed superior to the other. Since men occupy the positions of power in South African society, the discourse of difference serves to reinforce and legitimise the positions of power and superiority in relation to women. Within the discourse of inequality therefore, women and mothers are constructed as the “second sex” (Simone De Beauvoir, 1949 in Oberman & Josselson, 1996, p.341). Accordingly, the themes of mother as primary caregivers, working mothers and mothers as co-parents, are created by and in turn maintain the discourse of inequality within the motherhood construct. It is apparent from the first three, most prominent themes, therefore, that the construct of motherhood in South Africa continues to reflect and perpetuate gender inequality. Inherent in a discourse of inequality is the assumption of difference and a consequent variation in attributes, each with its corresponding value. Accordingly, women are deemed biologically predisposed to nurture whilst men are constructed as being limited in their nurturing capacities.

The implication of a construction of motherhood in terms of gender inequality is twofold. Firstly, inherent in this construction of motherhood is the notion that central to femininity is being a mother. Accordingly women are constructed as only fully becoming women when they become mothers. This results in enormous pressure for women to become mothers. A significant factor in the discourses which legitimise the mother as primary caregiver is that the guilt often arises out of a conflict of needs, most often between the mothers need to work and the child’s apparent need for her omnipresence and 'perfect' care. As a result, women, who can financially afford to, withdraw from public world of work, or engage therein at great emotional cost. Such discourses further impact on the relative importance of mothering and pursuing a career. This construction of motherhood therefore also results in the marginalisation of mothers in the workplace. Consequently, working mothers experience ambivalence, discomfort and a sense of compromise with regards to their careers.

The implication of this strong pull to prioritise motherhood over a career is the perpetuation of the gendered imbalance in the corporate world. Men consequently dominate corporate positions of power because women are persuaded by dominant discourses to pursue motherhood at the expense of their careers.

The essentialism of the motherhood construct, legitimised by the construction of motherhood as inherent, excludes women from the workplace at a discursive level. Supporting the relegation of mothers to the private domain is a pervasive gender inequality that constructs women as inferior to men in terms of public work. Alongside this is the construction of public work as more valuable, more significant and indeed more challenging than private work. The consequence is ultimately a devaluing of mothers that cannot be challenged, because they are discursively forced to embrace a private function which is constructed as inferior.

The fourth discourse employed is not constructed within the discourse of inequality. The discourse of empowerment, albeit poorly represented in these narratives, suggests the possibility of a different construction of motherhood. Within this discourse, women identified with the strength and power they associated with motherhood thereby suggesting that mothers can be constructed as powerful and possessing superior knowledge, different to men but not necessarily inferior. Whereas this initially seems positive, the phenomenon of power arising from the role of motherhood in itself serves to perpetuate the construction of motherhood as central to femininity. This is problematic, in that it seems women are granted knowledge, power and influence only by submitting to a construct of the feminine which essentially renders them inferior to men.

One discursive variation of the discourse of empowerment suggests that an alternative construction of motherhood is potentially conceivable within this population. The discourse of ‘mothers are women’ was only employed by one participant, and even then within a narrative of conflicting discourses. Nevertheless, the result was a construction of motherhood that gave equal priority to mothering and a career, thereby balancing the relative significance of public and private work for mothers. The mother is still inherently the primary caregiver within this construction however, thereby limiting the degree to which a greater prevalence of this discourse will contribute to alternative construction of motherhood.

Recommendations and Limitations

The construct of motherhood is, as I have experienced it, one that evolves over time, with new experiences constantly changing what one feels and believes. It would have been useful therefore to conduct a longitudinal study, interviewing participants biannually for a number of years. This would have allowed one to analyse how the discourses around motherhood are influenced by the age of the child and the growing confidence of the mother. A single interview provides one with material reflecting the participants’ present reality. From the analysis, it seems inherent motherhood discourses predominate in the first year of rearing a child. This could arguably shift in the months to follow, as the child becomes more independent and as the discourses around motherhood change accordingly and subjective positioning in relation to these may shift according to the age of the child. It is therefore hoped that such a longitudinal study would reveal a greater predominance of motherhood discourses of empowerment and other more positive discourses of motherhood.

A further limitation of this study is the homogeneity of the sample. The chosen sample represents women who are financially least affected by a discourse of inequality, in the hope that the discursive influences on their experiences of motherhood would highlight the pervasive influence of this discursive context. However, it would be reductionist to equate inequality with economic resources, without considering other possible discursive implications. If the construct of motherhood is to be understood within the context of a discourse of inequality, there must be a contextually wider exploration of the mothering experience. It is therefore suggested that further research be conducted, encompassing the class and cultural heterogeneity of South African society. In so doing, one would include those women who have been multiply oppressed across the lines of gender, class and 'race' within the historical context of ideological and material inequalities in South African society. Discourses are context-bound. Consequently, a multiplicity of mothering experiences is informed by a multiplicity of discourses and material conditions. A more representative sample of South African society would therefore hopefully provide further insight into the pervasiveness of the discourse of inequality and also facilitate a picture of the multiplicity of experiences and discourses of motherhood.

This study was located within a feminist paradigm in the hopes that the resulting methodology would be respectful of the participants, and that the outcome of the study would be relevant to the empowerment of women. The analysis of the transcripts reveals that the construct of motherhood as emerges here, is limiting of women and generally serves to devalue them. It further reveals that women cannot escape the implications of this construct, even if they choose not to become mothers. In the light of the above it is therefore imperative that we attempt to provide recommendations that contribute to the feminist ideals with which this study was embarked upon.

In terms of the discourses identified and the extent to which these reflect and perpetuate gender inequality, an alternative construction of motherhood is required. According to feminists like Burns (2000), alternative voices are needed to challenge the status quo. The paucity of feminist literature on motherhood in South Africa and elsewhere reflects the relative insignificance of this construct for women challenging gender inequality. Just as there was a silence around shared parenting amongst the participants, there seems to be a silence around motherhood and how the social construction thereof reflects and perpetuates the gendered inequalities of most societies. What is called for therefore is more research and more theoretical work exploring the construct of motherhood, in particular within the specificity of the South African context. It is hoped that by generating knowledge regarding motherhood constructs in various contexts, women will become better equipped to challenge the inequalities that are currently inherent and essentially invisible.

Gergen and Davis, (1997, p.6) report that ‘[s]ocial constructionist ideas have been liberating to those who struggle with the difficulties of being defined by others, without suggesting that there is only one proper way to be defined’. This study has illuminated the social processes that generate and indeed are perpetuated by a particular construction of motherhood. However, whilst it may seem that the populist view of motherhood is promulgated without dispute, Gordon (1990) would have us believe that there is still room for manoeuvring within the confines of these ‘truths’.

It is hoped that by revealing the social processes at work, this study will open up the way to alternative constructions of motherhood.

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